The Five Circles of Influence and Impact
The 4th Circle
We believe the tribe conversation is critically important as it creates and distinguishes the language and structure of a modern-day thriving tribe for you. As you develop the 4P’s; perspective, philosophy, principles, and practices of a thriving tribe, you expand your tribal consciousness and begin to master important interactions that become the foundations for success and achievement in all areas of life.
The TribeUp Success triad
Live Your Best Life Now
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Make Your Greatest Contribution to Society Now
INTENTION is the differentiator between life by design or life simply happening to us. It is the 4th concentric circle and the second most outward circle. Although we consider the 5th circle part of your tribe, you really begin to actively and intentionally tribe with others in the 4th circle.
The decision to bring someone from the 5th to the 4th circle should be made with great consideration. I believe this is where many people fail to steward their life well. We invite too many people, too close, too soon, and we invest too much. Investing in the wrong people often detracts from investing in the right people. Choosing one thing often means un-choosing another.
Bringing people to the 4th circle will require more investment of your time, money, and energy if you are being successful and you and your tribe are thriving. This work is about conscious stewardship and investment in your tribe to generate your highest and best, so not investing accurately is not an option in this circle. In other words, a thriving tribe is the result of consciously investing in this circle. We can choose to ignore the requirement of this circle and we can ignore the idea of a thriving tribe. Thriving is conscious investment for highest and best returns.
Each outer circle encompasses the other inward concentric circles. For example, we PING in the 5th circle but we also PING in circles 1-4. We become intentional in the 4th circle and that intention continues into circles 1-3. As you will soon learn in the 3rd circle-CONNECTION, your influence is also present in circles1 and 2, and if it is not, we must consider they have drifted outward, and we might adjust our perspective and interactions. Adversely, it does not work in reverse. That which is in your more inward circles is not also in the outer circles.
There are typically two different groups of people we bring into the INTENTION circle. First, we invite people that we have some personal or professional interest in such as potential romantic partners, friends, business partners, teammates, mentors, and more. Secondly, we add potential clients/customers. We distinguish between these two because the process to nurture each is generally different.
In both cases, The Tribe Builder skills are important and personal face-to-face, one-on-one interaction is the best way to nurture. However, in the case of a larger list of potential clients/customers, we may need to nurture them more through one-to-many communications. Our results will always be better if we can give personal attention, at least to the A list.
Depending on the size of your tribe and if you have a desire to build, grow, or scale, you will need automation to manage and engage your tribe. This can be done through one of the many CRM’s (Customer Relationship Manager) on the market. You can also download the TribeUp app for free and use the TRM (Tribe Relation Manager) if you receive an invite from someone, which was designed specifically for people that are developing tribal consciousness.
As I stated, there are two types of groups you will nurture and there are also two main ways we will nurture them. Either it will be very personal or mass communications. Sometimes mass communication is necessary, and it should be done in the most conscious and highest and best way possible. The more you can personally nurture important relations, the more your tribe will thrive. When moving people to INTENTION, consider how best to nurture them.
What does nurturing mean?
In this context it means two things, both are important functions of a tribal leader. First, it means to encourage and support the development of. Your tribe will be stronger as individuals are developing themselves into their highest and best versions. Secondly, nurture your influence, impact, and relation with them or further develop the relation.
Nurturing requires discovery and assessment. Who are they, where are they going, and what would support them in getting where they want to go. Also, what are their interests and what is their passion? When we add value and contribute to someone in these areas, we begin to build the bond of influence and ultimately, impact. With influence they grant us listening and they act, which gives us a well-earned form of needed power or life capital if you will. We can typically sustain this power if we do not abuse it, abuse them, or abuse others with it. Influence is going up or down with every interaction and that is why conscious causal interactions are paramount to a thriving tribe.
It is impossible, in my opinion, to act without self-interest in any of this. Can we do random acts of kindness, show compassion, possess, and act with empathy toward others without wanting or needing something from them? Sure, I believe we can, and it is a good way to live, especially outside of your tribe, not excluding your tribe. In addition to this way of being inside our tribe, we are designing our life, and that is driven 100% by self-interest. Self-honesty and self-honor are key to a thriving tribe.
Our intention to nurture can be performed with the highest and best in mind. It should genuinely add value and benefit to those we are nurturing. We do not place an expectation on them to reciprocate, we observe and discover if they will, then we assess, steward, and adjust our investment. Something must always give. Choosing one thing means un-choosing something else. If nurturing a relation in your tribe does not create some type of positive return for you, you must direct your investment elsewhere if you want a thriving tribe.
Life is not give and take. This should have never been something we learned. Life is only give and receive. To be even more accurate, life is give, and it is investment and return, sowing and reaping. In life, we can give, such as compassion and kindness or even other gifts. When it moves inward into our tribe, we still give but we must realize the conscious practice is investment and return. This doesn't exclude giving without expectation, but it also doesn't exclude giving as an investment. We invest in our tribe and our tribe returns our best life now. Tribe Well!